Adolescence and menopause – both times of massive hormonal, lifestyle and emotional changes for women. And for those of us with teen-agers, we can find this time in our lives to be even more stressful than normal. What can we do to get along better with our adolescent daughters (and sons!) as we’re experiencing our own upheavals? After raising nine children, and doing almost everyone wrong, sometimes more than once, I offer a few suggestions:
Remember that they, too, are experiencing anxiety, depression, mood swings, increased irritability and inconsistent motivation. They feel as out of control of themselves as we do about ourselves. It’s frustrating for everyone and we always take out our frustrations on the ones we love the most, right?! Thank goodness our family is pretty forgiving otherwise none of my kids would ever speak to me again…
You have tools to help mitigate friction, tension and drama.
So, remember that menopause and adolescence are passages – not destinations. Enjoy the ride as much as possible using all the tools at your disposal: both medical and experiential. Yes, you’re older but you’re also wiser. Putting that wisdom to good use can yield satisfying results for you both.